5 Years, 10 Days

Dear Lorenzo,

It's 7:37 a.m., Eastern Standard Time (I'm still in Jersey) and I'm EXHAUSTED because your bad ass daughter kept me up late as hell, doing her best to be all up in my grown ass business but... I'll save that story for another day.

I've been writing to you (in my mind) for the past twenty-four hours or so. 

Yesterday, I took a late lunch break and asked my sister to drive me to the nearest nail salon. After picking out a glittery fuschia that I thought might look nice against my skin, I spent an hour getting my nails and toes polished before heading back to the house where the real work would begin. After finishing up a final contract for my boss, I took the dog for a walk, ordered Chipotle for Mira's dinner, showered, dressed and did my hair within the span of about 40 minutes. 

"How do I look?" I asked Kay, who's also in town for the week. "Does this outfit say, 'Let's be friends?' " I asked, only half-jokingly.

"Not with your booty popping like that!" Kay laughed.

"Shit! I would go change but...my booty ALWAYS looks like this!" I answered before proceeding to sit said booty down and trying to breathe my way through my growing anxiety. 

But...by the time he got to the house I was good. 

I think I may have had a date last night.

I didn't THINK it was a date initially, and he admitted today that when he got to the house last night he was pretty sure I'd be wearing one of your old t-shirts since that is my customary day (and nighttime) attire but...I think I kind of brought my A game for this one (mom-bod notwithstanding).

We went and had a HORRIBLE dinner at a vegan restaurant and laughed our way through the entire meal. We went back to his house to get drinks (Bajan rum for him, Prosecco for me) before sitting outside and talking for hours. 

I really was going for the "let's be friends" vibe but... it didn't exactly work out that way.

It was really, really nice to be with him in person for the first time in like fifteen years.

I felt comfortable and like...

Myself.

I don't know where this is going or even if it can go anywhere but...

Last night was really, really nice. 

I hope we get to do it again soon.

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